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Christian marriage is a solemn and public covenant between a man and a woman in the presence of God. In the Episcopal Church it is required that at least one of the parties must be a baptized Christian; that the ceremony be attested by at least two witnesses; and that the marriage conform to the laws of the State and the canons of this Church.

The union of husband and wife in heart, body, and mind is intended by God for their mutual joy; for the help and comfort given one another in prosperity and adversity and, when it is God’s will, for the procreation of children and their nurture in the knowledge and love of the Lord. Therefore marriage is not to be entered into unadvisedly or lightly, but reverently, deliberately, and in accordance with the purposes for which it was instituted by God. (Book of Common Prayer 1979)

The First Steps

All prospective couples need to speak with our priest in order to initiate the wedding preparation process.

Pre-marital and Pastoral Counseling

The canons (rules and regulations) of the Church require that each couple preparing for marriage in the Episcopal Church must undergo pre-marital counseling. Clergy cannot marry couples who have not completed pre-marital counseling.

If a member of the couple has been previously married, the canons of the Church require the permission of the Bishop to proceed with wedding plans. This process is primarily to ensure that the previous marriage has achieved appropriate closure, and that all concerns and duties regarding former spouses, the care of children, and personal property have been justly and charitably engaged. You will need to schedule a meeting with our priest in order to initiate this process.

Wedding Policies and Guidelines

Scheduling

Weddings may be scheduled at any time by our priest. Weddings are not customarily scheduled during Lent (the forty days preceding Easter) or on major holidays.

The Officiating Priest and the Liturgy

All weddings at St. Anskar’s will conform to the rules of “The Celebration and Blessing of a Marriage” in the Book of Common Prayer (starting on page 423). The vows exchanged will come from that text as well. It is the norm that our priest conduct the service, however the possibility of guest clergy (from a different denomination/faith, serving as preachers, etc.) assisting with the service should be discussed with and determined by our parish priest.

If you are working with an outside wedding consultant, please inform that person that s/he will not play an active role in the ceremony or the rehearsal.

Staff and Fees

A complete wedding fee schedule is available from the Parish Office.

Marriage License 

It is the responsibility of the couple to be married to obtain the wedding license. Your wedding (or rehearsal) cannot take place if the license has not been received.

The Rehearsal

Rehearsals are directed by the officiating priest and will last approximately 45 minutes. The rehearsal time must be scheduled with input from the officiating priest.

Photographs

Photographs and videos of the wedding are allowed but there are certain restrictions. Please discuss this information with our parish priest.